Moving home with children

Popular culture has many stories about the angst children feel when families move home. Films and books confirm that children are not normally thrilled at the prospect of moving home. Moving can be very traumatic for children of all ages – as well as adults.

You can help your children to cope with the stress of moving. Be open and encourage your children to express their feelings about the move. Put your cards on the table. Make sure they know the reasons for the move – bigger home, change of job, being closer to a good school or family support.

Engage your kids

Involve your kids in the process of choosing your new home. Once you have a shortlist get your children to tell you their favourite things about the houses and take their feedback into consideration when making your final choice.

Declutter

Get your children to help with decluttering before the move. Get them to help decide what goes and what stays.

If you have a lot of extra ‘stuff’ to get rid of, get a pitch at a car boot sale. Ask the children to help you prepare the things you are selling. Tell them any money raised will go towards a family treat.

Learning

Get your children to learn as much as they can about the area you’re moving into. Encourage them to do their own research. Help them to go online and learn about all the amenities and societies that are available in the area.

Planning and decorating

If possible, let your children choose their own rooms. Get them involved in planning and let them choose their décor for their rooms. Involve them in picking furniture and rugs.

Saying goodbye

If you are moving some distance one of the hardest things for your children to come to terms with is saying goodbye to friends. You could hold a goodbye party where everyone can swap details, or you could chat with their friends’ parents to arrange weekend sleepovers.

Plan a day out

Once you have moved, get a local guide and an event listing and plan some days out with the kids in your new local area.

Routines

Make sure you stick to your routines as much as possible around bedtimes and mealtimes – especially for younger children – to help them settle in.